Sermon preached Sunday, January 7, 2023, Baptism of Our Lord, at Lutheran Church of Our Saviour, in North Chesterfield, VA.
I have had baptism on the brain lately.
It’s not just because I knew this reading was coming up, as it always does, right after Epiphany. No, I think it’s because there is a lot of baptism in my life right now.
You all bore witness to Ellie’s baptism in November. Very good friends of ours are having their baby baptized this morning in York, Pennsylvania. And in a couple weeks, I will be in Pittsburg participating in the baptism of my newest godson, Asher. I just ordered his “snuggly saint,” a stuffed doll of St. Brigid made my orthodox nuns in Kentucky, to go with his older brother’s St. George.
So, yes, I’ve had baptism on the brain.
And all of these baptisms have involved babies. Babies under six months old, who are still sleepy and mostly helpless. We baptize infants and young children because we know it is God acting in that water and in those words and we trust that God’s promises come through. We do not wait for people to “understand,” as if we every fully could. Still, because we baptize so young, and because infant baptism has become the norm in our tradition, sometimes the way we view baptism doesn’t get the full picture.
When we picture a baptism, we picture a family, a baby held in arms, maybe wearing a special outfit. That sweet little face is sometimes sleeping, sometimes not, sometimes screaming when the water hits their head, but that just makes the congregation chuckle a little bit. It is a sweet moment. But baptism, at its core, isn’t a sweet, saccharine thing portrayed by a Precious Moments figuring. It is, or it has the power to be, life-changing. It is a radical act of love by God.
Another pastor was talking about baptism and he used a quote from the novel “A River Runs Through It”: “I am haunted by water.” He went on to explore the things we are haunted by and how, in some parts, we are haunted by the waters of baptism.
At first reading, this troubled me. After all, “haunted” is a word with pretty bad connotations, right? We use it to talk about ghosts, or trauma, or addictions, things that are terrible, but that we can’t escape from.
I took the liberty of looking up the actual definition of haunt and, while there are some examples where the word is used to describe the paranormal or something disturbing, there is also a way in which this word means to simply be persistently in the mind of…and isn’t our baptism, ideally, something that should be persistently in our minds?
Certainly, there are those negative things we are haunted by:
- Despair, when we see violence and the death of innocent people, or oppression and injustice.
- Cynicism, when we know that the world is not fair and we expect others to take advantage of us at every turn.
- Indifference, when we are faced with big issues of climate change, political turmoil, hunger, and unaffordable housing and it’s hard to imagine that our actions could have any sort of impact whatsoever.
- Loneliness, when friendships break down and relationships become a struggle.
- Guilt, our own guilt that we just aren’t enough—good enough, smart enough, wealthy enough, far enough along on this imaginary life checklist.
We are haunted by all the feelings that attempt to tell us, over and over again, that we aren’t okay, that we aren’t really loved, that we aren’t really forgiven, that we aren’t really God’s.
But then we can remember that we are also haunted by baptism, we are also haunted by the water that God has troubled and stirred up and made holy on our behalf, and the only water that can quiet those other persistent occupiers of our mind. This water refreshes, renews, restores, and fills up the nooks and crannies where those other haunts reside.In baptism, God makes us children and heirs of the promise of salvation. We are claimed and named as God’s beloved and sealed with the cross of Christ forever. How is that for persistence?
Baptism does not mean an easy life. It doesn’t mean a simple one. It doesn’t mean that everything we do will be perfect or that we will never struggle with those old haunts of despair or loneliness or guilt. It’s likely we will, because we are human and our brains and hearts and spirits often communicate different things to us, even things that we know aren’t true, but we still can’t shake.
No, baptism is not a magic wand for a perfect life. Instead, it is a grounding, a life-line, a way-station in a turbulent world. It never lets us forget the ultimate truth of who we are and who we belong to. Baptism means that even when (not if!) we are haunted by things that seek to hurt us or separate us from God and our neighbor, God will not allow it. The tether will hold fast and lead us back to God’s abundant grace and love and mercy.
Several weeks ago, I was talking with someone who struggled for a long time with anxiety and depression. (I have their permission to share this story.) After years with therapy and different medications, they still weren’t quite at the baseline that most of us who do not have clinical depression and anxiety live at. Last January, they began Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation, or TMS, and they also embarked on a wonderful and fulfilling new relationship. Both the TMS and the relationship, along with the established meds and therapy, were life-changing.
2023 rolled along with a new sense of peace and happiness. The same things that would have caused anxiety spirals the year before were now dealt with in a more even-keeled manner. I experienced more openness and engagement in-person than I’d seen in a while.
And then, at the beginning of December, I got a text message asking to talk. When I called back, they told me that they were feeling the way they did before. It had all come flooding back, the same feelings of anxiety and depression and the helplessness of it all. And on top of it, I think there was fear that this was the new normal again.
As we talked, I reminded them again and again that the work they’d done, the progress they’d made with TMS, the development of this healthy relationship, it was not all for naught. It didn’t go away because there was this step back. It felt like drowning, but they could see the surface of the water and a hand reaching down to help them. In the end, this episode only lasted a day or two, which was pretty great compared to before.
For me, this is similar to how I think about baptism. It doesn’t erase the bad parts of our lives. It doesn’t cure physical illness or mental health struggles. It doesn’t repair broken ties in our families or communities. BUT it can keep us from drowning. It can remind us of the good in our lives, the love of God, and the support of our faith community.
We can’t keep ourselves from being haunted. We can’t create an emotional bubble suit around ourselves. Not only would it be impossible, but it would also prevent us from living the whole human experience. So yes, we will be haunted by things like loneliness and guilt and indifference. But, and most importantly, we are also and always haunted, in the best possible sense, by water, by love, by grace—by our baptism.
Amen.